What to do at the 3am wake
A short decision tree for the middle of the night, when you have no capacity to decide anything.
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What happens between bedtime and morning, and what to do at 3am.
A short decision tree for the middle of the night, when you have no capacity to decide anything.
Read →Usually one of four causes. Work through them in order instead of changing everything at once.
Read →Wake windows, short naps, and the day that sets up the night.
Rough ranges by age, and the tired signs worth trusting more than the clock.
Read →Signs it's actually time, and the two-week bridge that keeps bedtime from falling apart.
Read →The weeks it falls apart — four months, eight months, and the ones nobody warns you about.
Sleep gets lighter and more adult-shaped around now. What to hold steady while it settles.
Read →Where feeding and sleep actually conflict, and how to change it slowly.
Feeding at night and longer stretches aren't opposites. Where they actually conflict.
Read →A two-week taper, who does which wake, and how to stop if it feels wrong.
Read →When it is not a sleep problem, and when to stop troubleshooting and call someone.
How to loosen things for a few days and come back without starting over.
Read →Time zones, daycare, moving house, clock changes, a new sibling.
You can't control their room. Here's what to change at home instead.
Read →What to keep identical when everything else changes, and how long the reset takes.
Read →Your own sleep debt, splitting the night, and getting yourself back.
Four ways to divide the night, and how to decide without a 2am negotiation.
Read →What broken nights do to you, and the small things that give back the most rest.
Read →Answer ten questions and get a plan written for your baby and your household.
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